The other day Josh and I were talking about this image that was making the rounds on facebook. If you are on facebook chances are, you saw it. Here, let me refresh your memory…
He said to me, “did you see that photo?” and yes I had. He asked me how I felt about it, which then led me into discussion similar to this post…
I have a problem with this image. Want to know why? Here we go…
I am what society calls fat. I know this, have struggled with it all my life. By definition of the medical community I am considered obese. 5’3, size 14. I was lucky to be born with hips and chesticles, big ones too! Josh loves them. Now, what I don’t have is ass. I am a pancake back there. So there, I’m the “big girl”.
I could sit here and applaud that image, thinking to myself, “YEAH! Curves are so much better! Real women have curves!! YARRR”. But instead I cannot help but be offended at how much wank goes on about women and their sizes. The sad part is a lot of the time it’s women ripping apart other women.
Let’s look at who was used for basis of comparison, shall we?
Heidi – girl had multiple plastic surgeries to look that way. AKA unhappy with herself, probably emotionally skewed views of her body image.
Keira – Have you seen her ever? She has always been rail thin. She has probably been naturally waifish since she was a teenager.
Have you ever thought that those thin people also feel the pressures of looking a certain way? That they don’t obsess on the insults just as much as we do?
I know what you’re thinking! “ZOMG, the fatty is defending the thin people, aren’t they glorified enough?! What the hell, aren’t you supposed to be on our side?! Traitor!”.
What am I getting at here? I am getting there….
I know women, online and otherwise who are just naturally thin. They have lean, athletic, small boobied, no assed, small hipped bodies. They’re not anorexic, have eating disorders, etc. Sure, there are always going to be those who do but for all intents and purposes, this post is not about those with diseases. That is a whole other animal. But a lot of these naturally thin girls? That is what they are and have been most of their lives.
I defy you to tell me that they are not real cause they don’t have “more cushion for the pushin'”. Seriously? If you really believe that dribble than you are no better than the fashion industry force feeding “thinner is better” into everyone. Newsflash! Meat on your bones doesn’t make you a “real woman”, being more than a B cup or being 36-24-36 doesn’t make you a real woman either.
I am just so sick and tired of all this wankery. You know what the worst part of it all is? A lot of the times these statements are coming from women about other women. Aren’t we supposed to stand up for one another? We expect the perceptions to change and instead you’re posting that lame photo on facebook to justify yourself and make yourself feel better that you aren’t a size 2. Yes, women have changed over the years but last I checked this isn’t the 50’s anymore… and if that was 20-30 years prior all of the women on the bottom row would be labeled as whores for showing too much skin. See what I did there?
So this is me, saying yes, I am a not a size 2, and probably will never get under a 10. I am ok with this. What I am not ok with is seeing this bullshit perpetrated and fed into. Let me tell you something… Your calling the thinner girls “gross” and “skeletal” is just as prejudice and demeaning as someone calling you a “fat ass”. So cut it the fuck out already.
Being honest, truthful, honorable, comfortable, happy and respectful to who we are is what makes us REAL. Being that person and doing it with grace is what makes us a woman. There are things I would love to change and every day I work to change them, to be a better person. By definition, that is what makes me a real PERSON. What makes you real? It certainly isn’t the size of what is attached to your chest.